Comments on: Comparisons

By: bookjunkie

bookjunkie — Fri, 07 May 2010 11:32:15 +0000

thanks for the inspirational words. i am guilty of feeling inadequate on most days and that holds me back. i will try to compare me today with me yesterday from now on

By: Farouk

Farouk — Mon, 18 Jan 2010 08:35:34 +0000

i was just discussing the process of comparing yourself to others with a friend, guess the law of attraction brought me here:)
thanks for the post

By: Jessica

Jessica — Thu, 14 Jan 2010 04:58:01 +0000

Oh, you warm my heart Marianna, Auntie Stress. You know, in the news we mainly hear about cortisol as the stress response brain chemical, and it’s not well known that there are over a thousand different chemicals that make a very complex cocktail in our brains. Thanks for reminding me. Warmest wishes! -Jessica

By: Marianna Paulson

Marianna Paulson — Thu, 14 Jan 2010 04:39:31 +0000

Ah, the disease I call “comparitis”. A big source of stress for many. In comparing ourselves to the model on page 3 or the MVP or the kid in the desk beside us, we are implementing the stress response. This ensuing cascade of 1400 neuro-chemicals can do damage over time. It also exacerbates this condition of comparitis. Fortunately, help is at hand, as you’ve explained.

We are all unique with talents and skills and progress stories that are fit us perfectly.

Interesting enough, this is about the third time today that I’ve heard about shining our light.

Thanks for reminding us all to glow, Jessica!

By: Jessica

Jessica — Tue, 12 Jan 2010 16:41:16 +0000

Hi Carol and Kathy! I lost track of time searching for the right image for this blog post and never found it. Good thing I posted the words first and then looked for an image later, because the timing was right for Kathy. I wanted an image of those crazy racers who run down muddy mountainsides and actually slide on their rears when it gets too slippery. (hehe, slippery slope).

Kathy, I was scared to write this: Whether you’re getting negative feedback because you are gifted and others feel self-conscious around you or because you’re egocentric and you drive others away. I kind of thought I was writing myself into a trap. There must be a myriad of other reasons for negative feedback. I am not, of course, any kind of psychologist or counselor.

Even looking back on my own blog posts, I see I have a tendency to moralize and preach. There goes my ego, expressing itself the way it sees fit. We all have it, and the ego is not inherently bad…except it likes to take over and run the show…I once thought I had to get rid of my ego; that it WAS a bad thing . So of course, since I labeled it my enemy it had to find covert ways to show itself…what with the showing off, being a know-it-all, and so on.

By: Kathy

Kathy — Tue, 12 Jan 2010 02:04:19 +0000

This is a wonderful posting. Interesting, earlier today I started re-examining some of my own motivations concerning feedback. So this was very timely! Thank you, Jessica.

By: Carol King

Carol King — Mon, 11 Jan 2010 18:17:54 +0000

Wonderful words of great wisdom as always Jessica. Comparing ourselves to others is certainly damaging and it is an act that I have had great experience with. My cure for this was EFT it helped me to find out what beliefs were holding me back and how to gradually change those beliefs to something more positive and productive.

I will certainly check out the sites you have suggested though, I believe that negative beliefs will always surface from time to time so having tried and tested ways of eliminating them is always helpful, thanks for the info.