Living On Purpose

As a few of you know, I’ve taken a break from Live on Purpose while I sort out some things with my home life and the family business. I had an amazing transformational experience at Big Mind (a method of self-inquiry) and I’ve also started a new level of Holosync brain entrainment to further my transformation.

Holosync has a way of making issues disappear, whether you knew about the issue or not. Doing Big Mind with a facilitator is a great way to bring light to issues you didn’t know you had, or to the reasons you have the issues you know about.

For instance, during the Big Mind process, I realized I had big issues around the subject of caring. Suddenly I remembered all the men in my life who had told me that no one in the world could care about me as much as they did. Why did each of my boyfriends say that to me? Perhaps I had not been able to care about myself; perhaps I had neglected the art of self care. Perhaps when I was a small girl in a very impressionable age, I made a coping method to deal with my mother’s chronic depression. Maybe that coping method was to internalize the idea that it’s not safe to do anything to upset mother for fear of her threats of suicide or her mood swings. This led to me giving up my own sense of self in order to be the peacekeeper and not upset mother. This way of thinking may have worked in the moment as a child, but I’ve outgrown it now and it no longer serves me. It’s way past time to slough off the old way of thinking about my Self.

I see that radical self care seems to be very popular in the media now. There are books about it, seminars and workshops about it, public conference calls about it. So what does it mean to engage in self care? Where’s the line between self indulgence and self care? I think it begins with listening to your soul; with getting still long enough to hear the faint cries of the Self to the self. Where have you compromised your values? Where did you stuff your talents? One message I’ve been getting over and over is that of talent. If you use your God given talents, it will free your soul, but if you stuff your talent and neglect to use it, it may eat away at your soul.

And this brings me to my present challenge. My talent may be producing fine art that explains my spiritual awareness, but I don’t make time for it because of the busy-ness of the business. Or my talent may be in writing, or designing, or any of the other things I dearly love but don’t engage in because of the family business. So I’ve decided to drop the drama of deliberating and just start taking baby steps. My life will work itself out. Up until now I hadn’t owned my position of admin in the family guttering business because my heart was elsewhere. In these past months I decided to fully own it and take steps to do the job much better than before, despite my distaste for it. I’ve hired an accountant, an organizer, gotten an office and a smart phone, and devised a spreadsheet file to help keep track of work orders. We’ve had a banner summer and fall.

For now my self care is listening to Holosync, taking time to exercise, and stepping away from situations where I know I’ve lost my center. I use my emotional guidance system to make decisions on whether I should do something or not. I sketch every once in a while, and for now that’s good enough. What about you? Do you engage in conscious self care?

As you may or may not know, I’ve used meditation for much of my adult life. When I found Holosync back in 2003 or so, it saved my marriage! I had sunk to such negative thinking in terms of my marriage, that all I could focus on was a separation. Once I began using the Holosync CD, I could change my thinking and solve my problems from a different angle. I have stuck with it over the years, although recently I seem to be having technical difficulties in keeping a functional CD player in the house because of my “curious” toddler. I believe that Holosync also gave me the courage to build and write this web site, because I have grown in numerous ways over the years I’ve been using it.

So it is not lightly that I recommend this program to you. I am an affiliate, meaning that the company Centerpointe will pay me a small commission for sending you to try their program. So with all honesty, I send you to a new video Centerpointe has created to explain their program. Take some time to watch it, then order their free demo or the first level risk-free, if you want to experience results like I have experienced.

Meditation Benefits Video at Centerpointe

By the way, Bill Harris of Centerpointe has agreed to add some special, unannounced bonuses for my readers, so please make sure to use this link so he knows you’re with us. I want you to get all the extras he’s promised to my readers.

Now, here’s just a “taste” of what The Holosync Solution can do for you…

1) It can allow you to effortlessly reach states of super-deep meditation–even the very first time you use it…

2) It can dramatically accelerate your mental, emotional, and spiritual growth, giving you the results you always THOUGHT you were supposed to get from meditation (but, if you’re like most people, never really got)…

3) It creates healing of emotional traumas and self-imposed limitations forever, even for people who have been unsuccessful with other methods…

4) It actually slows the aging process by stimulating the production of many neurochemicals and other substances in the body that are associated with longevity, well-being, and better health…

5) It can dramatically raise your threshold for stress and cause stress-induced dysfunctional feelings and behaviors (including anger, depression, fear, anxiety, substance abuse, and many others) to fall away…

6) It can increase your self-awareness, inner peace, and happiness, as well as your ability to connect with other people and create successful relationships.

If you’ve tried meditation, or some of those other personal growth approaches that just didn’t deliver, or want to go MUCH deeper, with faster results… or if you just want to grow and improve your life at an accelerated pace, I know you’ll love The Holosync Solution.

I don’t recommend things to my friends and clients lightly. But I’d be doing you a grave disservice if I didn’t urge you in the strongest possible terms to check this out.

There’s no risk to check it out, and I know you’ll be glad you did.

Remember, you can get a FREE Holosync demo CD, a FREE Special Report, and a special offer to try The Holosync Solution program, at no risk, by going to:
Meditation Benefits Video at Centerpointe

Well, there is officially a “movement” going on about finding one’s life purpose. Jim White, author of What’s My Purpose? and creator of The Circle of Success, a customized, yearlong leadership and management transformation process has launched a blog about finding one’s life purpose. He’s looking for a million people who want to commit to finding their life’s purpose. I was the 92nd person to comment, and to date, there are 218 comments; all from people affirming that they are committed to the same goal. He will host a free teleseminar this Saturday, July 12, and it proves to be interesting.

What’s my purpose?

In order for a person (let’s say you) to arrive at a state of being where you can find your purpose (and live it, to boot!), there has to be awareness. This kind of awareness is internal, but it can start with external things. If you find yourself living on automatic, it will be beneficial to begin to develop a new habit of watching your thoughts, and even watching what you do with things (like the toothpaste cap, your keys, or the top to your peanut butter). If you realize that you’re thinking about stuff unrelated to what you’re doing while you perform daily tasks, (and then just focus on the task at hand) you’ll lose less things!

Zen philosophy: When you’re sitting, just sit; when you’re eating, just eat; and so on. According to Zen, existence is found in the silence of the mind (no-mind), beyond the chatter of our internal dialog.

Did you know that even the act of acknowledging your troubling thoughts can help you feel better?

The zen tradition focuses on bringing awareness to the breath during meditation. This, in turn, brings more awareness of the types of thoughts and reactions you’re having throughout the day. You can begin to actually watch thoughts, label them, choose to follow them or drop them. Wow, with thousands of thoughts happening during the day, this seems tedious, and lots of people give up after being overwhelmed.

There is a method of meditation, however, that is not so tedious, and can help you gain awareness like a Zen Master. It uses binaural beats to train the brain as you wear headphones and listen to a soundtrack, and after time your brainwave patterns become more symmetrical, meaning that you are calmer and not as easily swept into drama as before. I’ve already written a testimonial about my experience with Holosync here.  It really works for me. If you want to skip my testimonial, and read about Holosync from the source, here it is: Centerpointe.

Today’s webmaster can separate the content of the site from the design of the site. One file has the HTML content, or the words the site will hold. Another file, linked to the first, holds the design elements, so all you have to do to change the design is change this file, and it’s called the CSS style sheet. This concept of separating content from style took hold around 2000. The original way to design web pages was to glob everything all together, and it made for a large file size; a “heavy” page that took a long time to load. (much like excess emotional baggage.)

My eureka moment happened when I realized that humans can learn, metaphorically speaking, to change their style sheet, too. You see, earlier, when my 16 year old asked, “What is a soul?” The quickest answer I could muster was, “A soul is the part of you that lives on even when your body dies.” The soul is your real “self”, not subject to the whims of your emotions and visceral reactions. If we can learn to separate the “self” from our emotions, then we have learned how not to be attached to certain emotional states. You’ll see what I mean if you watch “What the bleep do we know?” I think the best example of this is to look at a good actor. A good actor can cast aside his/her personal opinions for a moment and play another person; one who may or may not believe the same way the actor does. When the actor is in the middle of a role, he has changed style sheets and let the emotions of another define his personality temporarily.

As we go through different phases of our lives, as normal everyday people, we take on different style sheets of emotional reactions to situations. Most of us think our style sheet defines us. You’ll hear excuses like, “that’s just me”, “if you don’t like who I am, then forget you”, or “I can’t change”. However, if you look at css zen garden, and click around to change the layout of the site, you’ll see that the design of a singe style sheet doesn’t define the purpose of the site.

Yes, our behaviors do define us, because men are judged by their actions. Think of it this way; you can choose to react differently to the same stimulus. Our true self, the one behind all the reactions and mistakes, anger and vices, is the one that is our source. It is like the HTML and our emotional reactions are like the CSS style sheet. Let’s rise to the occasion and cast off the extra weight of unnecessary emotions; the ones that clog up our creativity and weigh down our freedom. The best tool for doing that is at Centerpointe. I have been using the Holosync CD and I recommend it if you want to make your spiritual/emotional work transparent, like it’s not even work at all!